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I want to read an unequal open relationship, where one partner is allowed to see other people and the other partner very much isn't, because Person A is jealous and Person B just isn't, and there is no value judgment attached to that. People are different and that's okay! People who are different can be in a relationship without having to compromise or agree on everything! They can have two sets of rules without it being unfair! Sometimes, two sets of rules is the MOST FAIR YOU CAN BE.

That sounded ranty? But mostly it was relevatory; I hadn't realized that was a thing I thought about until I saw the exchange in No Finish Line (“You’re still allowed to see other people, though,” Adam says into Kris’ shoulder. “Yeah, well,” Kris says, “you still aren’t.”) and went HEY I WISH THAT WAS A THING.

Like, it kind of shows up in a lot of mostly-slash-minor-het fic, where Kris or RDJ or Peter or Watson or whoever is married and also dating a guy and that's okay because his wife just isn't jealous! She's down with his bisexuality! And dude, I enjoy that trope WAY more than most other ways fandom has of "dealing" with the wife (and also I enjoy the poly for itself - see icon), but I really want less "she gives him permission" and more "this is the relationship we have negotiated - you can do this but not that, I can do that but not this".

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I just want to randomly say: Chickasaw! I grew up in Norman.

Also, hi!

Small world!

And hi! I figured, I have been fic-stalking you for years (from waaay back in Buffy fandom), I may as well escalate to blog-stalking!

Stalkers are always welcome!

I'd not thought of this before, but now I think I've identified a new kink I didn't know I had - I love when that happens, so thanks for that!

could you give me a link, or author's name or something, so I can track down Let It Take You? cause now I really want to read that

Whoops, I actually meant No Finish Line by

minglingcrab. And it's an awesome fic/series? But regardless of the quote, by that point they're monogamous (it was one of those "you don't have to jump straight into another serious relationship, you can date around" conversations).

For an unequal open relationship, you want the Administration series (original m/m), in which Character A sleeps with whoever he likes and is hideously jealous and protective, so that Character B (mostly) is monogamous. Also Character A is kind of sociopathic sometimes.

Oh, hey, yes. I also hadn't identified that as A Thing, and A Thing I'd like to see more of, at that. You might try asking on

kink_finders for more recs -- I'll be watching to see what comes up. *g*

I didn't realize how AWESOME that was until just now. *3*

I want to read an unequal open relationship, where one partner is allowed to see other people and the other partner very much isn't, because Person A is jealous and Person B just isn't, and there is no value judgment attached to that.

That is actually my real-life arrangement. It's nice. It works.

It doesn't help your fannish quest any, but I thought I'd comment and waste a few pixels.

I really want to comment that I like the way you think and wish to subscribe to your newsletter, except... I already do. *cough* But yes, so much yes for this post. I want more fic in general about two (or more) people communicating and fitting their own unique shapes together as though, gasp, everyone has their own quirks and you can't just follow the same pattern for every couple and expect this to be realistic.