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I am doing that thing again where I struggle with my definition of "small fandom". Because if you've ever seen one of my small fandom rec lists, you'll have seen not-actually-small fandoms on there, because for me small isn't defined by general popularity as much as it is by my own frequency of reccing (I would probably put a Due South story on a small fandoms list, for ex, because it's a big fandom, but it's not a big fandom for me - there was that one fling that can mostly be laid at TFV's doorstep and that was mostly it).

But a), I seem to default to doing small fandom lists and at this point I'm pretty sure I'm going to have to stop putting things like Hikaru no Go fic on them, because, uh, HnG fic on every sf list means a lot of HnG fic and therefore, no longer a small fandom; b) what I rec does not always equate to what I've read, especially in fandoms I've been in since before I started list50 in '06. So I think of SG-1 as one of my bigger fandoms, because it's a long-standing, significant fandom to me (as in, I was watching SG-1 pre-SGA and that was what led to me watching the very beginning of the spinoff and also getting to see the first, stumbling steps of Atlantis fandom, back when it basically consisted of 6 stories on Area 52, 5 of which were Sheppard/Ford)...but I have not actually recced it much, because of time/forgetfulness/lost bookmarks. So it might be a small fandom? But it won't go on a small fandom list.

Anyway, it mostly boils down to, White Collar is probably not one of my small fandoms, Leverage maybe is, Marvel comics squeaks through for now, and Generation Kill does not.

POSSIBLY I WILL JUST PROCRASTINATE UNTIL SUNDAY AND THEN HIT Y'ALL WITH MANY LISTS OF MANY THINGS ALL AT ONCE.

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I want to read an unequal open relationship, where one partner is allowed to see other people and the other partner very much isn't, because Person A is jealous and Person B just isn't, and there is no value judgment attached to that. People are different and that's okay! People who are different can be in a relationship without having to compromise or agree on everything! They can have two sets of rules without it being unfair! Sometimes, two sets of rules is the MOST FAIR YOU CAN BE.

That sounded ranty? But mostly it was relevatory; I hadn't realized that was a thing I thought about until I saw the exchange in No Finish Line (“You’re still allowed to see other people, though,” Adam says into Kris’ shoulder. “Yeah, well,” Kris says, “you still aren’t.”) and went HEY I WISH THAT WAS A THING.

Like, it kind of shows up in a lot of mostly-slash-minor-het fic, where Kris or RDJ or Peter or Watson or whoever is married and also dating a guy and that's okay because his wife just isn't jealous! She's down with his bisexuality! And dude, I enjoy that trope WAY more than most other ways fandom has of "dealing" with the wife (and also I enjoy the poly for itself - see icon), but I really want less "she gives him permission" and more "this is the relationship we have negotiated - you can do this but not that, I can do that but not this".